- You see what I did there. I infused the word [idea] of love with manipulation.
As it is with most [if not all] people, the idea of loving someone else inasmuch as we all love ourselves, is practically impossible. In that deficiency, when we choose to “couple” with another, inevitably one or both use the experience to manipulate the other to gain out of the relationship their own personal benefit. Eventually, that digresses into failure, and the union washes out.
Loving ourselves is never the problem. Projecting that love onto another, is. Even onward in repeated attempts, the baggage of failed attempts corrupts the next, resulting in confidence that the love we hold for ourselves for others is unattainable. We, then, return to our beginning … that of being “single.”
I suppose the old adage “divide and conquer” could be at play. More likely the cause, that which was never in truth joined. The love that is required for two to remain as one never existed … in the first place. So, it seems.